Before I accepted his proposal, I told him everything I had been through in my past. All the ways the father of my three children traumatized me, we talked about it. The break-up was messy. He knows this too. He understood that I found it difficult to trust a man with my heart after everything I had experienced. Most importantly, all I wanted to do was work hard and raise my kids without another set of relationship problems......Read The Full Article>>.....Read The Full Article>>
Despite my reservations, he didn’t give up on me. He didn’t also rush me or put pressure on me to accept him into my life. All he had to do was open up himself and show me who he was. I saw for myself that he is everything my ex was not. This guy is caring. Not mere words, kind of caring. Ever since he came into my life, he has been all about making things easier for me.
He told me, “Just because your baby daddy hurt you doesn’t mean I am also going to do the same. All men are not the same. Some of us take good care of our women.” For the past six months since we’ve been dating, his actions have proved this.
He does everything for me. Most of the time, I don’t even ask. He gives me what I need before I even know that I need them. I had plans to start a business before things became serious between us. When the relationship began, I discussed my plans with him. Alvin bought into my idea. “This business sounds promising. Go for it. I believe you have what it takes to do it,” he encouraged.
After he did all the hype and encouragement, he gave me money to start the business. Even after that, he still makes sure I lack nothing. My kids are also not left out. He loves them and treats them as though they are his.
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We’ve not been together for long but we are talking about marriage. So far I have met all his friends. They are great. I like them and they like me too. They know about my kids and it’s not a problem. Why should it be though? They are not the ones I am dating.
Anyway, recently Alvin talked about introducing me to his parents. It made me happy. It meant a lot to me that our relationship is progressing in that direction. My only problem right now is how he wants me to present myself to them. He said, “We can tell them you are a mum but under no circumstances should you reveal that you have three children. If they ask you, just tell them you have one child.” How can I do this?
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I told him I can’t lie but he is sure his family would separate us should they know the truth. “I am the one going to marry you and live with you. Not my family. That’s why they shouldn’t have access to any information that would cause them to oppose our plans.” I understand him but I am not sure I have the energy to live a lie. Besides, how long will I have to keep pretending?
If I should go along with his plan and his parents find out later that we both lied to them, are they not going to be angry with me? I don’t want to start my relationship with his family based on a lie. However, I also don’t want them to reject me for having three children while Alvin himself doesn’t have any children of his own. Is there any hope for us? I don’t want to lose a good man. Should I do what he says and embrace the consequences later? I am so confused.
