Fresh out of an abusive marriage, a newly pinned PTSD diagnosis on my lapel, and anxiety so severe I stayed home for the better part of a year, I was walking trauma in human form. You know that feeling when you have the flu and your body is so sensitive that even the slightest touch can hurt?.....Read The Full Article>>.....Read The Full Article>>
That was me — and the slight touch was someone telling me to smile because it would make me feel better.
Spoiler alert: it didn’t.
Instead, it made me feel worse since a) I knew only how to fake smiles back then to hide my pain, and b) it dismissed my experience.
Along with being told, “Look on the bright side” or “Happiness is a choice,” I felt shame in the labeling of my emotions as bad.
At the time, I was oblivious to this kind of gaslighting by people who feel compelled to spread their so-called positivity wherever they see fit.
These “good vibes only” folks, however, aren’t actually spreading any good vibes. And I for one am tired of being on the receiving end of people who can’t see past the end of their own advice.
